This month of love at The Isaac’s Journal, we are doing a series and looking back on Couple’s Retreat in 2015, we’ve invited some of our friends to share what they’ve learned and how they were able to apply it in their marriage.
Last week we had JK & Sheena share what they learned about Fighting Fair
– This week let’s learn from Joey & Bham –
Hello, we are Joey & Bham Lecitivo. We are from Laguna (Southern Luzon part of the Philippines). We’ve now been here in Dubai for more than 10 years and counting.
I love watching movies and Joey used to work as a sales associate in a video rental shop. That’s where we met and became friends. 16 years ago when we were still very young we thought why not run away and get married. Without any money on us, we ended at my Aunt’s home who is a Pastora. She counseled us that if we wanted this relationship we should make it right; not for anybody else but to make it right before the presence of God. We had our civil wedding May 30, 2000. A year later we were blessed with our son Josh who is now 14 years old.
After hearing all the stories of the first couple’s retreat and encouragement from our small group leaders, we desired to attend the next one. It was difficult for us to decide not only because of the financial side but because of some other issues. But we are glad that GOD has provided for us to join the retreat!
“SEEK GOD” & “NEVER GIVE UP”
We went through a really difficult time in our marriage (2009-2012) to the point that Bham was really hopeless about life. We lived with the hurt, pain and betrayal for almost 3 years. The challenges that life threw at us during those years seemed unending and we felt like we wanted to give up on our marriage. But thankfully GOD has connected us to a group of people, who not only helped us get through our situation but also led us to a relationship with GOD.
It was really a blessing for us to be in the Couple’s Retreat last November 2015. We came to realize that “spiritual intimacy” i.e. Seeking God together is something that we need to work on. The hard truth is that our personal relationship with God is clogged and we have to admit it and do something about it. The best way to have spiritual intimacy is through praying together and pouring our hearts out as a couple; regardless of the time we have each day for starter. We have to seek God’s desire and purpose to our family.
We cried, we laughed and were amazed during the seminar as we try to look back those years of trials. We had our season of pruning where GOD is setting our characters and aligning our hearts to His purpose. It was a painful time where GOD is exposing us to our own mistakes but yet with loving kindness helped us go through each difficulties and made us new again. We believe that every person we come to meet, GOD had purposed them to be present in our journey. We are mostly grateful for our small group leaders (Ricco & Aileen Dela Torre) who never gave up on us, continually prayed for us and patiently waited for us to open up to them as well as other Church family and leaders who stood by our side and believed in faith.
We are still a work in progress but under a “new management” of JESUS. We boast not of ourselves but of GOD’s unfailing love and goodness to us that we are still together after 16 years, because what we have is not just merely a contract but a commitment to GOD and to each other. We believe that through praying together, seeking GOD we have no reason to give up.
Like the Isaacs said retreat is like a marriage check-up. It’s really worth investing to attend to events like this, you will learn so much. We looking forward to attend the next retreat.