One thing I’m so grateful to God for is the wonderful children HE has blessed Candice and me with. Not a single day goes by where we are not thankful and appreciative of this marvellous gift of being called parents to Gabrielle, Michelle & Daniel.
Being a parent is hard work. There are moments when it’s probably frustrating, tiresome and agitating. Moments might arise when our children do not respond the way we might want them to. We dread those embarrassing moments when we are in front of people and our children blatantly disobey our commands.
I wanted to blog a little series about a few things I always remind myself as I partner with God and Candice to raise the beautiful children He entrusted to us. Here is the first part.
If you feel you’ve done everything but are still failing as a parent, PRAY. If you go through days wishing you never had children, PRAY. If are uncertain how they would turn up when they grow up, PRAY. If you are on the verge of giving up, PRAY.
If there is a hope we can hold on to as we parent our children, it is prayer. Remember, we are partnering with God to raise children up, so we might as well actively keep God with the course of parenting by praying.
We need to keep praying for our children because:
- God created them (Psalms 139:13)
- God knows them better than us (Jeremiah 1:5)
- God has entrusted children as an inheritance to us (Psalms 127:3)
Here are some things we need to remember when it comes to praying for our children.
1 – Deliberate
Needless to say, prayer as a habit needs to a deliberate in our lives. In our prayer life, we need to be purposeful and intentional. I hope as parents we would pray as much if not more for our kids as we would for other perpetual prayer points we have like our next promotion or sales deal closing or for that irritating colleague you want God to send to another department. The simple point being, we need to be deliberate about praying for our children because they are our inheritance. So we need to invest time to pray for them.
2 – Prophetic
This is something I’m training myself to do, move on from rhetorical everyday prayers like “bless them, keep them safe, let them do well in school” to what I want to see happen in and through him. To start declaring who they will become in the future; the character that needs to be formed or changed in them, for the talents & skills that need to hone in them. To invite heaven into their lives and for the awesome things that God would prepare for them. I’m learning the importance of praying for the things that are still unseen and believe in faith for the great things to transpire in their lives.
“The tongue can bring death or life”
3 – Unrelenting
In spite of all your prayer and efforts, does it seems like your kids are difficult to parent? DON’T GIVE UP. There are certain characteristics that are just not changing? DON’T GIVE UP. Are the kids becoming a strain on your marriage? DON’T GIVE UP. You feel like giving up? DON’T GIVE UP.
Let me keep this simple – Don’t give up on prayer because with God there is nothing impossible. The harder being a parent gets, the more unrelenting and unwavering we need to get in taking our concerns before God in prayer.
“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?
Philippians 4:6, 7
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
In the words of Stormie Omartian from the book The Power of a Praying Parent, “When we pray, we bring that power to bear upon everything we are praying about, and we allow the power of God to work through our powerlessness. When we pray, we are humbling ourselves before God and saying, “I need Your presence and Your power, Lord. I can’t do this without You.” When we don’t pray, it’s like saying we have no need of anything outside of ourselves.”